I haven’t done a confession post the last two weeks and I missed it. I hope you did too? Either way, it’s baaaccckkkk! (read that in a creepy/stalker tone, obviously)

–You guys. You guys. For the love! Why is it that Roden and Fields has taken over Facebook??? I have a few Facebook “friends” that are distributors and that is great and all. Congrats in fact! But here is the thing, you aren’t fooling anyone with the comments on your posts about how awesome that shit is. Every person that comments is another Roden and Fields distributor as well. I might have been interested in trying it out, you know, before you posted about it eleventy bazillion times and bothered the ever living shit out of me. Just no. But love you, mean it. I can handle maybe a post or two a week about it, but more than that? #justno

–I keep seeing this quote everywhere I turn. Do you think it is trying to tell me something? #voodoo

Ship is Safe in Harbor - Fine Art 8x10" Photography Print, Monterey Bay Boats, Quote Print, Harbor Quote. $25.00, via Etsy.

–Oh life lessons. I believe in either middle school or high school I learned the hard way that those who gossip to you will gossip about you. Sadly, that story is still true well into adulthood. If people want to believe that a shit-stirrers gossip is true, then I don’t need them in my life. #peoplesuck

–I have two nephews graduating preschool/daycare this week and heading to kindergarten. How has it been 5 years already??? Not to mention my oldest niece went to her first prom last weekend. She’s just a freshmen, but still…when my sister sent me a picture of her and the bf before they left…just wow! #wheredidthetimego

Erin wrote a post yesterday asking “What happened to blogging?” It was basically like she wrote exactly what I have said to a few people recently. When did blogging become this cut throat competition of pin-worthy content, fancy pictures and a bunch of rules about what you should and shouldn’t do? I have been writing in this space for 3 years and sometimes it makes me sad to see how much things have changed. I come here and write what I write because I want to. Because I love connecting with you. Because I need a creative outlet.

I never pressure myself to see how many page views I get in a day or sell myself out because I am trying to make this blog a full time business. I have seen so many great bloggers get burned out and quit because they were trying too hard to be perfect. Perfect is boring folks. Write because you want to. Do what you want. What feels good.

Confessions in ecards

No kidding.....BUT what a way to go!

The day shall come when looking at certain foods will make me think this!

I’ve known this to be true…

 Making Melissa

#Hashtaghumpday @ Life with Lolo
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  • Reply Julia @ Grace Makes New April 22, 2015 at 8:06 am

    Hahaha that background music one, yes! That would be super helpful! I totally agree about blogging, I haven’t been at it that long, but it seems like lately there have been more and more posts about the “rules” of blogging and what you must do or must not do. I read a post like that yesterday and instead of finding it helpful it just made me kind of mad! I put enough pressure on myself to perform and be perfect, I don’t need other people telling me I’m doing it all wrong!

  • Reply Laura April 22, 2015 at 8:17 am

    my dad asked me once why I post so many food related things in Birmingham – restaurant reviews, etc. and I simply said, well it’s my blog and I like to eat. with you a million percent on do what makes you happy. this is your space, man, that most of the time you pay for. might as well do what you want with it.

    and yes, I will probably die tripping over stell dog with a spoonful of frosting.

  • Reply kristen April 22, 2015 at 8:20 am

    i have no idea what or who Roden and Fields are?!
    and yes i totally agree – i enjoy blogging and i want other people to like my stuff and pin my stuff, but i am NOT going to become someone i’m not, aint nobody got time for that! I don’t think I’ll ever make a ton of money blogging, nor do I want to – I look at ‘bigger’ bloggers and they are so fake, not to mention everyone hates them and disses them on GOMI and shit. I don’t want people to do that to me!! lol. i’m happy having my little itty bitty spot of the internet where sometimes i talk shit and sometimes i (hopefully) share something useful. but mostly talk shit 😉
    ps love you and your blog girlfran! keep keepin on!

  • Reply Jenn @ Business, Life & Design April 22, 2015 at 8:33 am

    Omg, life should absolutely have background music! I specifically need dramatic, mournful music for my silly crying fits, so I can feel like they’re much more justified and dignified than they are.

    I don’t know what Roden and Fields is, but my Facebook is awash in sales “parties” and pyramid schemes, and I am sick and tired of Jamberry Nails and Slumber Party. And it’s bad enough to get random invites from people who don’t talk to you in real life, but I hate the “sales talk.” One of my FB friends was doing some kind of fitness thing and she posted before and now pictures with the “now” covered up and said, “If I get enough likes and shares, I’ll let you guys in on my progress pics!” Wtf? You sound more like a company than a real person.

  • Reply Lindsay Latimer April 22, 2015 at 8:48 am

    The Rodan + Fields stuff wears me out, too. I will say I’m intrigued but I burn out quickly! Gossipy people are the WORST. Why as adults do we continue to act that way? Hope your week looks up!

  • Reply Tracie April 22, 2015 at 9:02 am

    I’ve thought the same thing about blogging lately. I have seen a ton of what you need to do as a blogger, apps you need to have, how to…. I’m not that into those types of posts. I like to read funny stories and hear about life. You know, things I can relate to!

  • Reply Deborah April 22, 2015 at 9:19 am

    Those ecards are classic!!! lol Love these confessions.

  • Reply Kateri Von Steal April 22, 2015 at 9:22 am

    Yes – and shit does make you sound thug.. for realz hehehe

    And I’ve been blogging for going on – oh – 5 years now, just as a creative outlet, only in the past year did I start getting recognized as a “real blogger” but what on earth does that even mean? ? ? I do this, because I like to, and when I don’t like to – I don’t do this. I’m with you sister.

    Gossiping Shit Stirrers – I mean seriously, we will take the warning labels off of things, and let those people take care of themselves – you know what I mean?

    And – if you are seeing that quote everywhere – it’s totally telling you something, the universe hates to be ignored.

  • Reply Marie April 22, 2015 at 9:29 am

    Sadly, what happens in high school still happens in the work place. Personally, I find it ridiculous, grow up people. I have no time in my life for drama. I have enough of my own. I too have learned that those who I thought were my friends are not and I’m ok with that. I’m already moved on.

  • Reply Alanna @ Alanna and Co April 22, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Haha I should definitely respond as Jake from State Farm next time that happens to me!

  • Reply Teh Megan April 22, 2015 at 9:45 am

    My FB feed is now filled with Jamberry nails and Essential oils sellers.. /wrist.
    Also, why is “graduating” from anything other than high school and college a thing? Seriously? I feel like by giving kids all these celebrations of things that aren’t really milestones make them value things so much less. And I might be bitter because my sister “graduated” from Kindergarten and that wasn’t a thing for us. We had awards day at the end of each year and that was it. I believe it was much better that way. I also felt that my 8th grade “graduation” was a fucking scam. No one needed that. I don’t want to be special.

    Finally, there is one blogger who has gotten significantly bigger since I started reading and I’m so over seeing sponsored posts that I’m about to sacrifice a link-up because I’m over it. I do what I wawnt. I don’t need your blogger rules. And I’m keeping my black background too! HA!

  • Reply Biana Perez April 22, 2015 at 9:46 am

    Perfect is not possible – it just isn’t!! The ecards are just too funny – sunglasses one is truth! xo, Biana – BlovedBoston

  • Reply Laura @ Life with Lolo April 22, 2015 at 10:17 am

    eCards for the win as usual! Hahahaha. The diet one and the sunglasses ones were all too true! I agree with Erin’s post too. It’s all about content and pinnable material and shares – why can’t it go back to just being us writing about our lives and sharing a recipe or project every once in a while? I always feel that pressure that my blog is too much about me and not enough usable content, and then I take a step back and remember who I blog for – me. So I just keep doing what I do! haha.

  • Reply Brittany Pines April 22, 2015 at 10:33 am

    I’ve had the same thoughts about blogging…I kind of hate the idea that it has a to be a business or money maker. I see all these tweets and posts about “how to make a six-figure income by blogging” and I just…don’t get it.

    The Jake from State Farm card is amazing, totally going to do that next time!

  • Reply Tami April 22, 2015 at 10:44 am

    OMG – the Rodan and Fields people!!! I can’t hate on anyone who is hustling, but I can hate on multiple Facebook posts per day shilling the same OMGSOGREAT product over and over. Not cool, bro.

  • Reply Pamela @ A Little Glitter April 22, 2015 at 11:33 am

    OMFG. I am not hounded by R&F distributors so much as Advocare people. Get off me.

  • Reply SMD @ Life According to Steph April 22, 2015 at 12:22 pm

    LOL – your R & F is my 31/Jamberry/Younique. Leave me alone.

    If everyone would be themselves on their blogs/instagrams/FB, things would be much better.

  • Reply Dorrie @ Bear Den Plantation April 22, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    Bahahah on the R&F. I have It Works, and Beachbody filling up mine, as well as a few R&F, Jamberry, and Younique sprinkled in! Also, I LOVE the sunglasses meme. And I totally agree on the blogging thing!!

  • Reply kathy at real talk April 22, 2015 at 12:50 pm

    ok here’s something funny: i had no idea what you were talking about so i googled “rodent and fields” and thought: why would facebook be pushing vermin stuff on Nadine? then i find out it’s skin care products and i totally got the name wrong. well played my asian slanty eyes, well played.

    i quit my other blog because it was way too much work. i couldn’t keep up with the whole responding to comments and all the posts and the linkups it was basically my second job but not getting paid for all the time i spent maintaining the site. no. now i love my small blog and i post when i want and there’s no pressure – it’s the best. people are more than welcome to pin my shit but that just means they’ll post pics of my dirty sanchez face LOL

  • Reply Nadine April 22, 2015 at 2:21 pm

    So completely agree with yours and Erin’s sentiments about blogging. I struggle daily with what to blog. I put pressure on myself to blog about things I don’t care about, just so I can blog more frequently. That feels so disingenuous to me, so instead I lack in posts. But I think that’s okay, as long as I am sharing what feels right to me!

  • Reply Kate @ Green Fashionista April 22, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    I wish I could understand why some people thrive on drama and gossip even as adults. I just don’t have the time or energy for it, and I confess that it causes me to look down on those who do 😛

  • Reply Tracy April 22, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    Couldn’t agree more about blogging. I mean, I like pretty things as much as the next person, but mostly, I just want to read something real, you know? That’s not to say that I don’t have times when I try to put on my best face, but I do try to keep it real. And I think it’s great when bloggers share content that’s useful, and if I’ve done something I think could be beneficial to someone else, I’m happy to post it, but sometimes I just want to share personal thoughts and experiences. It might not always be pretty, but it’s what’s on my mind.

  • Reply alyssa April 22, 2015 at 7:17 pm

    I’ve never seen an R+F post (had to google it actually) but I have seen the same with other direct-sale things like that. Definitely annoying. Oh and I love that ship/harbor quote! Also re: blogging, I actually have a post in drafts I need to finish up about how my blog is just a blog, not a business. I work enough. I work full-time and freelance in 100 different places. And I have, ya know, a life and hobbies. Don’t tell me my blog isn’t good enough because I don’t stage 10 instagram photos a day, schedule a post every day of the week, comb the web looking for sponsorships, dump all my money into sponsorships and photo equipment, or optimize for SEO. It’s a blog, not a business. If other people want a business online, go for it! But I don’t need blog 100 posts a week telling me how to make my blog “better.” Take your pin-worthy images, I’ll take the thoughtful, heartfelt posts and real human connections any day.

  • Reply Kenzie @ CME April 22, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    I am having that same problem with the It Works! sales people. A large handful of my friends started selling it and my entire news feed is blowing up with it, my Instagram too! I would like them to simmer down a little bit. On another note, I would love if my life had background music ha ha!!

  • Reply Kerry April 22, 2015 at 9:51 pm

    I have seen a lot of blogger burnout, perfect is just not attainable. Sunglasses totally hide who you are looking at! ha!

  • Reply ellesees April 23, 2015 at 7:29 am

    i wrote a post like that a year ago, called What Happened to Blogs? where that was one of the things I wondered about. it feels like everyone has photographers, managers, pr people, graphic artists, photo editors, assistants, and like you, it’s just little ole me running the show! i miss the days when content was king, not having amazing pictures.

  • Reply Joey April 23, 2015 at 8:33 am

    I was finding that my blogging mojo was disappearing and it was because of all this pressure that seemed to be put on my blog. Then I just went back to being Joey and things have been easier. The thing I like about blogging is THERE ARE NO RULES! It’s your space to do what you want with!

  • Reply Amanda April 27, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Dude. Don’t even get me STARTED on the Rodan & Fields shit storm. -_- For the love of Christ!

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