Wednesday Confessions: I Have Friends in the Wrong Places

I have realized that I have all the right friends in all the wrong places. And by wrong places, I mean that all of the friends that need to live around me do not. They are spread out across the country….and most recently we even had one move to a different hemisphere. I read all of your weekend reviews and think, man what a fun weekend! Why cant I live near so-an-so?!  Sometimes it is hard to be….meep….30…..

Most of my friends are either married and have kids and no longer want to (or have time to) go out and do fun things on the weekends. And by fun things,  I am not even talking about getting crazy, I am just saying lets go grab a beer or two and some dinner and call it a night at 10:00 pm. Or they are single and a little younger and I am just not cool enough to hang with.

I mean why is it so damn hard to find a good couple or even just a few people for us to just hang out with on the occasional weekend? I have lots of great ideas of fun things to do. A brewery hop around town, check out a fun hip restaurant, host a little get together at our house…maybe have a craft brew tasting party with some appetizers or a football party.

Not many people want to come visit Birmingham. Trying to get any of my friends who live in Atlanta (just two hours away) to come for a weekend is laughable to them. This isn’t a third world country over here, people! While it might not be a travel destination, there are some fun things to do around here! There are breweries, great restaurants and fun areas of town to hit up. We can certainly provide a night of entertainment. Plus we have a guest bedroom that would provide a comfortable and free place to stay as well. So who wants to come visit the Ham?!

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  • Reply Lauren January 15, 2014 at 1:27 pm

    I so feel your pain! Especially with blogging! It’s like, so and so is perfect, why aren’t they here? Next time we drive to ATL I may take you up on that guest room offer 🙂

  • Reply kathy @ vodka and soda January 15, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    see, this is what i don’t get – parents who throw their social life away when they have kids. you don’t have to go out to all night ragers (ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat) but dinner, drinks, laughs with your bitches? HELL YES. i am more than a mother and i continue to cultivate my own passions and awesomeness outside of my family.

    i make a point to see my friends at least twice a month or impromptu ge- togethers when we can. hell, we’re all busy but that’s what planning is for!

    Vodka and Soda

  • Reply Heidi Westbrook January 15, 2014 at 3:39 pm

    Brewery hopping and restaurant outings are two of my favorite things! I feel the same way sometimes, especially since we moved AWAY from all friends we had for over 10 years (hence the blog hobby). Luckily, I’ve made some new friends…but it’s jut not the same. ya know? I’ve never been to Birmingham, but I think I’d like it! We call Durham the ‘Ham too! 🙂

  • Reply SMD @ Life According to Steph January 15, 2014 at 4:16 pm

    This is why teleportation needs to happen. Now.

  • Reply Morgan January 15, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    Birmingham has really grown up within the past few years, but I don’t think people who aren’t from around here even realize that. Growing up I hated Birmingham and swore I would never settle down here. Fast forward 10 years and here I am, happy as can be! I love Birmingham and appreciate it so much more these days. I mean, when you think of all the things Birmingham has to offer (breweries, fun restaurants, a great bar scene, fun family activities), it’s pretty hard NOT to find something to do around here.

  • Reply Meredith January 15, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    See, at 23, I don’t get “crazy” anymore. I like to do the same things – restaurant sampling, try a cocktail here and there, go see some live music. And Birmingham has exploded with this sort of thing recently, but none of my friends are into the same stuff! I definitely feel your pain.

  • Reply Kelli January 15, 2014 at 7:38 pm

    My friends live all over the country too, the closest friend I have lives only an hour and a half away but we never see each other. Adult life and friendship is so much different than high school/college friendship.

  • Reply Rachelle January 16, 2014 at 12:51 am

    Aww! I totally feel your pain! Our best friends are in Kansas and the Carolinas. Did you ever watch that TV show King of Queens? I loved how Doug and Carrie were always trying to make couple friends. Sometimes I feel the same way! Birmingham sounds pretty cool. I totally know how you feel because when we lived in Wichita, KS none of our Carolina friends wanted to visit. I don’t blame them 🙂

  • Reply Heather @ From Here to There January 16, 2014 at 1:09 am

    Hey girl Hey! I would totally be up for a visit! 🙂 Not sure when, but I’ll be keeping B-ham on the brain when I’m itching for a road trip. I also make trips to ATL pretty frequently, so maybe when I pass through Birmingham we can get together and grab that drink! I would be up for staying in town if you happened to have a spare room to save me the money lol, or I can just pass through and visit and then continue on my way to ATL so I can stay with family for free lol. Either way, I’ll think of you next time I’m passing through or if I get the urge to travel one weekend! 🙂 Hope you do find some friends more local though so you have some people to hang out with frequently. I completely understand though! I get pretty lonely these days because all of my friends have moved away.

  • Reply Amanda January 16, 2014 at 4:40 am

    I would love to go out with you and be home by 10PM! That sounds like the PERFECT date!!!! 😀

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